Dalam kenangan TUNKU JALIL IBNI SULTAN IBRAHIM .

A MOTHERS LOVE-STORY FROM DYMM RAJA ZARITH SOFIAH

A MOTHER’S LOVE - STORY FROM DYMM RAJA ZARITH SOFIAH, THE QUEEN OF JOHOR

5 DIC 2016

“The time in China was quite hard because we were in a completely different environment, completely different from Singapore and Malaysia, where we had visits from friends and relatives,” said Raja Zarith Sofiah, reliving the year’s development that had seen her shed 10 kg off her already petite frame.

“For me, to know that he had gone through this massive operation and to see him in pain was very hard. I knew I couldn’t take away his pain, and I knew he must be feeling afraid.

“There were times when I would wake up feeling very sad and this went on until the coronation was over.

“Jalil himself told me to tawakkal but he felt guilty about making us worry.”

She was able to heave a big sigh of relief only after the coronation in March this year.

THE TEARS, FINALLY

“It was only then that I was able to cry. When the tears came, it was such a relief to let it go. Before that, even my children noticed that I was in a daze most of the time. I had no interest in anything. There was a sort of heaviness to do anything. Dressing up to go to functions was difficult,” said Raja Zarith Sofiah of the ordeal.

However, she was blessed with having a very close knit family and a network of close friends. More importantly, she found solace in her daily prayers and zikir.

Nevertheless, it was fated that the test and challenges for Raja Zarith Sofiah did not stop after the transplant in December.

A routine monthly scan found nodules, small masses of tissue in Tunku Jalil’s lungs and these were cancerous. The cancer had spread from the liver to the lungs. A round of chemotherapy was again necessary.

The chemotherapy, which had taken a toll on not only Tunku Jalil, but also the family, was finally stopped last July. The nodules had not shrunk. This month, another scan is on the cards to see if the cancer has spread or has actually disappeared.

“The complication in Lil’s situation is that he is someone with a liver transplant, not just someone with cancer. So whatever drugs they give, they would have to consider the liver,” said Raja Zarith Sofiah.

“We are lucky in the sense that we can afford to give him the best treatment, but it doesn’t take away the fact that my son has cancer. However much money you have, health is still important.”

She was also quick to admit that she found it even harder to see children with cancer after Tunku Jalil’s diagnosis.

“I guess it was easier to offer solace to other mothers until you become that mother yourself. I just don’t know why,” she said by way of an apology, adding that from what her son had described to her of the after-effect of chemotherapy, she just couldn’t imagine how young children would cope.

Tunku Jalil himself is coping by visiting children and adults with cancer. The Sultan of Johor had also set up a foundation in his name called the Tunku Laksamana Johor Cancer Foundation.

Raja Zarith recalled visiting the late Zakwan Anuar, who made news when he was photographed with the visiting Duchess of Cambridge. The 15-year-old boy had acute leukaemia.

“When I heard that Zakwan was not well, we flew to Kuala Lumpur. Jalil was with me. Zakwan was already in a bad shape but he had told his mother that I would never come. His mother then told him that he was wrong as I was there with Jalil to visit him,” she said.

The family ordeal brought them even closer together with the siblings taking turns to visit Tunku Jalil whenever he was in hospital.

“One night when he was in pain, he asked one of the staff to call me. So I went in the middle of the night. My eldest son and all the children were there as well and he was just in bed in so much pain from the chemo,” said Raja Zarith Sofiah who added that she is a changed person.

“Too much had happened within this one year, from the diagnosis last August till now, moving house, arranging for our son’s wedding, the coronation and all the time anxious about Jalil. I realise now that money isn’t everything. Having good health is very important,” she said philosophically.

Hari ini, 8 Disember 2015, DYMM Raja Zarith Sofiah juga telah menulis di Facebook baginda:

Warkah buat anakku, Jalil:

Mama tahu, satu satunya sebab Lil pergi kehospital adalah kerana Lil menanggung kesakitan yang amat sangat. Lil sebenarnya hendak kekal tinggal di rumah : Lil telah terlalu kerap ke hospital. Namun Allah S.W.T., Yang Maha Mengetahui, menempatkan Lil disana agar kami, keluarga Lil, dapat meluangkan sebanyak masa bersama Lil.

Mama menyimpan seribu satu kenangan tentang Lil ketika Lil menghabiskan hari hari terakhir Lil di dunia ini.
Mama terkenang satu ketika sewaktu Lil memejam mata dan air mata menitis di pipi Lil, semasa Lil cuba melawan kesakitan yang ditanggung. Mama memegang tangan kiri Lil dan menangis. Mama mencuba sedaya upaya untuk menahan sedu sedan Mama dari kedengaran. Mama fikir, Lil tidak nampak Mama menangis kerana mata Lil pejam. Tapi Lil tahu. Lil meletak tangan kanan Lil diatas tangan Mama dan menepuk nepuk dengan perlahan, seolah berkata “Jangan menangis, Lil tidak apa apa.”

Dimana anak mama yang lagi seorang?

Mama ingat semua mesej pesanan ringkas yang Lil hantar kepada Mama. Bila Mama mengatakan bahawa Mama telah berdoa untuk Lil, Lil membalas dengan mengatakan bahawa Lil juga telah berdoa dan memohon kepada Allah S.W.T. biarlah Lil yang menanggung semua kebimbangan Mama. Bila mama melihat makam Lil, hati mama dipenuhi keperitan. Mama masih terbayangkan detik ketika Babah, abang dan adik Lil memenuhkan kubur dengan tanah sementara Boo dan Inah berdiri disisi Mama. Mama memandang kearah abang dan adik Lil, dan membilang hanya tiga anak lelaki. Boo disisi Mama.

Anak lelaki Mama lima orang. Dimana anak mama yang lagi seorang? Dan Mama baru tersedar bahawa Lil yang tiada. Lil kini berada dibawah timbunan tanah itu.

Dan pada ketika itu, Mama menadah kedua tangan mama dan berbisik, “Sesungguhnya dariMu kami datang, dan kepadaMu jua kami kembali. Daku memulangkan kepadaMu, Ya Allah, anakku.”

Moga Lil ditempatkan bersama mereka yang soleh.

al fatihah..semoga rohnya dicucuri rahmat dan ditempatkan bersama orang2 yang beriman..Aamiin